#tbt - The word Mom is pure Joy!
Bill, Susan and Andrew Dubin - Thenand Now
At first, things seemed to go according to plan. Pregnant the first time they tried to conceive, the couples’ excitement turned to devastation, when Susan began bleeding in her 8th week and miscarried the pregnancy.
“It was awful,” says Dubin. “None the less, I started trying again as soon as I was able. But this time, months passed and I was still having trouble getting pregnant again.”
Susan’s close relationship with her mother and sister failed to yield helpful advice. “Just elevate your legs after you try,” said sister Julie. “Have a little wine,” said Dubin’s Mom. “Relax a little.”
Susan’s reaction was very familiar to those faced with ‘tips’ while trying, unsuccessfully, to conceive. “Seriously? Did they really think I didn’t know what to do?” remembers Dubin. “Not only was I insulted by others’ albeit, well-meaning advice, I began to wonder what was wrong with me. I had always been able to go after a goal and achieve it, so how come I was failing at something millions of people seem to do with minimal effort?”
A few months and thousands of tears later, Dubin’s OB/GYN recommended that she visit John Rinehart, M.D., Ph.D., a Reproductive Endocrinologist and Infertility (REI) specialist, at his offices in Evanston. Rinehart, now a partner with Reproductive Medicine Institute (www.teamrmi.com) with offices throughout Chicagoland, remembers the bubbly young woman desperate to be called ‘Mom’. “It can be heartbreaking to speak with women like Susan, who want to conceive and instead face continued disappoint in their efforts,” says Rinehart. “Yet, considering 10% of the population faces infertility, it is an all too common a scenario.”
Rinehart started Dubin on Clomid, generally the first ‘line of defense’. While she did conceive, once again, she miscarried early on. Further testing confirmed Ovulatory Dysfunction, a condition that can result in difficulty conceiving as well as miscarriage. Surprisingly, Dubin felt relief at the diagnosis. “So, you mean, I actually have a REAL problem?” she asked. “I also made sure to call my mom and sister to let them know they were wrong with their guidance tips and I actually DO know a thing or two about getting pregnant!”
The ‘team’ switched to Intrauterine Insemination (IUI) to no avail before moving on to Invitro Fertilization (IVF) and a positive result… one that stuck!
Andrew Tyler Dubin was born on July 31, 2002 and in the words of Mom, Dad and Dr. Rinehart, ‘couldn’t have been more perfect!’
Today Susan Dubin is the happy mother of a healthy and handsome 15 year old. “Looking back, I realize it was Dr. Rinehart and his staff, who gave us our life, in the form of Andrew, who has enriched our lives in every way,” says Dubin.
“It’s quite satisfying to hear from a patient who continues to cherish the role and title of ‘Mom’”, says Rinehart. “It makes my job a joy for years to come.”